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Pete Walker Quotes

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“A final scenario describes the incipient codependent toddler who largely bypasses the fight, flight and freeze responses and instead learns to fawn her way into the relative safety of becoming helpful. 

She may be one of the gifted children of Alice Miller’s Drama Of The Gifted Child, who discovers that a modicum of safety (safety the ultimate aim of all four of the 4F responses) can be purchased by becoming useful to the parent. Servitude, ingratiation, and forfeiture of any needs that might inconvenience and ire the parent become the most important survival strategies available.”
— Pete Walker
Tagged: Fawn Response, Trauma Survival Strategies, Annotation Examples, Complex Trauma, Defense Mechanisms, Fight or Flight, Fawn or Freeze, Narcissistic Parents, Children of Narcissistic Parents, Children of Narcissistic Fathers, Children of Narcissistic Mothers
“It appears to me that children are wired to release fear through angering and crying. The newborn baby, mourning the death of living safely and fully contained inside the mother, utters the first of many angry cries not only to call for nurturance and attention, but also to release her fear. In the dysfunctional family however, the traumatizing parent soon punishes the child for emoting. The child becomes afraid and ashamed of her own tears and anger. Tears get shut off and anger gets trapped inside and is eventually turned against the self as self-attack, self-hate, self-disgust, and self-rejection. Self-hate is the most grievous reenactment of parental abandonment.”
— Pete Walker, GRIEVING and COMPLEX PTSD
Tagged: Self love, Self Hate
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