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Shahida Arabi Quotes

Total quotes: 169
“Don’t lose hope if your worst nightmares came true in the past or if someone tried to crush your dreams into a pulp in the present – because big dreams can never be destroyed by the small-minded people that were never brave enough to live out their own.”
— Shahida Arabi, Read This During the Worst Moments Of Your Life
Tagged: Inspirational, Motivational
“One day in the future there will be the privilege of more awakenings and of more happiness than you can capture in photographs; new growing pains and new first drafts. Rest assured that if you do not give up now, you’ll get to change the course of everything that’s still unwritten.”
— Shahida Arabi, Read This During the Worst Moments Of Your Life
Tagged: Inspirational, Motivational
“You might initially mistake his devaluation as a normal cooling down phase from the honeymoon period of a new relationship. The difference is, this sudden Jekyll and Hyde character switch becomes a repeated pattern throughout your relationship and you continually bear witness to someone who disrespects and psychologically torments you before reverting back to their loving facade.”
— Shahida Arabi, 5 Things You Don’t Realize He’s Doing Because He’s A Narcissist
Tagged: Narcissistic Abuse, Psychological Abuse, The False Mask, Behind the Mask, Hot and Cold Behavior, Narcissism, Signs of A Narcissist
“This is the numbness you feel right after a breakup. It’s the frozen terror you feel when you receive bad news. It’s the shock that hasn’t worn off a tragedy. The liminal space is the unprocessed aftermath of trauma. It is emotional limbo. It's the pause between pain and progress, between epiphany and evolution.”
— Shahida Arabi, The Liminal Space Between Heartbreak And Healing: 7 Steps To Get Out Of Emotional Limbo
Tagged: Liminal Space, Heartbreak, Healing, Grief, Transformation, poetic prose
“White knights pride themselves on 'saving' others and this is a core part of their identity in relationships. Rather than opening themselves up to true intimacy where both parties in a relationship are emotionally fulfilled, they unconsciously seek out unhealthy partners who appear to most need them.”
— Shahida Arabi, 5 Signs You Have White Knight Syndrome: Playing The Rescuer In Your Relationships
Tagged: White Knight Syndrome, Savior Complex
“Bringing in the opinion, perspective or suggested threat of another person into the dynamic of an interaction is known as “triangulation.” Often used to validate the toxic person’s abuse while invalidating the victim’s reactions to abuse, triangulation can also work to manufacture love triangles that leave you feeling unhinged and insecure.”
— Shahida Arabi, 20 Diversion Tactics Highly Manipulative Narcissists, Sociopaths And Psychopaths Use To Silence You
Tagged: Diversion Tactics, Narcissists, sociopaths, Psychopaths, triangulation
“Toxic and abusive people overstate their ability to be kind and compassionate. They often tell you that you should “trust” them without first building a solid foundation of trust. They may “perform” a high level of sympathy and empathy at the beginning of your relationship to dupe you, only to unveil their false mask later on. When you see their false mask begins to slip periodically during the devaluation phase of the abuse cycle, the true self is revealed to be terrifyingly cold, callous and contemptuous.”
— Shahida Arabi, 20 Diversion Tactics Highly Manipulative Narcissists, Sociopaths And Psychopaths Use To Silence You
Tagged: Diversion Tactics, Narcissists, sociopaths, Psychopaths, The False Mask
“The difference between constructive criticism and destructive criticism is the presence of a personal attack and impossible standards. These so-called critics often don’t want to help you improve, they just want to nitpick, pull you down and scapegoat you in any way they can. Abusive narcissists and sociopaths employ a logical fallacy known as 'moving the goalposts' in order to ensure that they have every reason to be perpetually dissatisfied with you.”
— Shahida Arabi, 20 Diversion Tactics Highly Manipulative Narcissists, Sociopaths And Psychopaths Use To Silence You
Tagged: Diversion Tactics, Narcissists, sociopaths, Psychopaths, Moving the Goal Posts, Scapegoating
“In the hands of a malignant narcissist or sociopath, your differing opinions, legitimate emotions and lived experiences get translated into character flaws and evidence of your irrationality.”
— Shahida Arabi, 20 Diversion Tactics Highly Manipulative Narcissists, Sociopaths And Psychopaths Use To Silence You
Tagged: Diversion Tactics, Narcissists, sociopaths, Psychopaths, Misrepresentation
“When a narcissist, sociopath or psychopath gaslights you, you may be prone to gaslighting yourself as a way to reconcile the cognitive dissonance that might arise. Two conflicting beliefs battle it out: is this person right or can I trust what I experienced? A manipulative person will convince you that the former is an inevitable truth while the latter is a sign of dysfunction on your end.”
— Shahida Arabi, 20 Diversion Tactics Highly Manipulative Narcissists, Sociopaths And Psychopaths Use To Silence You
Tagged: Diversion Tactics, Narcissists, sociopaths, Psychopaths, Gaslighting
“In a narcissist’s eyes, all victims are replaceable and interchangeable, depending on what they can do for the narcissist. All victims are in a never-ending competition to prove their worth and value to the narcissist. They are dolls in a narcissist's playhouse of horrors.”
— Shahida Arabi, The Dollhouse: 5 Roles You Play In A Narcissist’s ‘Harem’ Or Love Cult
Tagged: Narcissistic Harems, Cults, grooming, triangulation, The Narcissist's Harem
“What people don’t understand is that suicidal people aren’t acting out of selfishness – on the contrary, they feel that the world would be better off without them. They may be struggling with extreme depression, feelings of isolation, the effects of complex trauma or abuse, mental health issues, worthlessness, shame and an overwhelming desire to end the pain they’re feeling.”
— Shahida Arabi, 5 Reasons Why People Attempt Suicide
Tagged: Suicide, Suicidal Ideation, Suicide Is Not About Selfishness, Mental Health, End the Stigma, Complex Trauma, Depression Awareness
“Deliberately manipulative liars can also reveal their lie more overtly by reacting aggressively or defensively to their victims when called out for their lies.”
— Shahida Arabi, Why Do People Lie? 7 Major Reasons For Deception(And How To Spot A Liar)
Tagged: Why Do People Lie?, Deception, lying, Pathological Lying, Defensiveness
“Individuals who grew up chronically invalidated in toxic households or subjected to childhood abuse can benefit from Dialectical Behavior Therapy.”
— Shahida Arabi, What Dialectical Behavior Therapy Is And How It Can Save Your Life
Tagged: Dialectical Behavior Therapy, DBT, therapy, Suicide Prevention, Childhood Abuse, emotional invalidation
“Within you is a light that is brighter than the belittling words of those who are afraid of your potential. Within you is an entire universe, just waiting to be built.”
— Shahida Arabi, For All The Women Broken By An Emotionally Abusive Relationship
Tagged: Emotionally Abusive Relationships, Emotional Abuse Isn't Love, Inspirational, Motivational Life Quotes, Your Divinity, Healing from Toxic Relationships
“If you’re in a toxic relationship right now, just know that there is a better life possible for you. You are worthy of the happiness that life has to offer. You are deserving of healthy love and self-love. You are worthy of infinite abundance and success. You will be okay by yourself. In fact, who knows what you can accomplish when there’s no one stopping you?”
— Shahida Arabi, I Am Actually Living Carrie Bradshaw’s Life – But Here’s What’s Different
Tagged: Toxic Relationships, Freedom, Healing, Single Women, Self-Care, Motivational Life Quotes, Inspirational, Inspirational Quotes
“While your vivid imagination can benefit you as a creative type, it is very easy for you to get lost inside of your mind and out of touch with reality.”
— Shahida Arabi, 10 Things People Don’t Realize You’re Doing Because You’re An INFJ, The World’s Rarest Personality Type
Tagged: INFJs, The Mind of an INFJ, Myers-Briggs, Introverts, Imagination of INFJs
“Sometimes, it’s better to be alone for a while. To be in a relationship with yourself rather than with someone who makes you feel even more lonely. To give yourself permission to let go of the person you tried to be in all of your relationships in order to become who you were really meant to be.”
— Shahida Arabi, Sometimes, It’s Better To Be Alone
Tagged: Single Life, Single Women, Powerful Women, The Power of Solitude, Healing from Toxic Relationships, Inspiring, Inspirational
“Learning mindfulness and increasing bodily awareness are key components of Dialectical Behavior Therapy, which can help you to establish autonomy over your body in a way that is empowering rather than devaluing.”
— Shahida Arabi, Self-Harm: Self-Care Strategies For Healing And Recovery
Tagged: self-harm, Self-Care Strategies, DBT, Dialectical Behavior Therapy, mindfulness, Bodily Awareness, Autonomy
“Their goal is to distract you with their manipulative tactics so that you’re no longer serving your highest good – instead, you’re catering to their ego, exclusively serving them and their needs.”
— Shahida Arabi, 7 Ways Emotional Vampires Drain Empaths And Highly Sensitive People
Tagged: Emotional Vampires, Highly Sensitive People, Empaths, manipulation tactics, Highest Good
“You idealize them and put them on a pedestal. Everything they do, from the awkward to the charming, gets flagged in your mind as evidence that they are a flawless, loveable human being.”
— Shahida Arabi, Love Or Limerence? 11 Signs You’re In A Fantasy Relationship
Tagged: Limerence, Love, Obsession, Infatuation, Intimacy, Commitment, Fantasy Relationships
“You find yourself lost in elaborate fantasies about his person, from the typical to the eccentric. Your fantasies tend to have a “heroic” element to them in that you even imagine saving your crush from dangerous situations.”
— Shahida Arabi, Love Or Limerence? 11 Signs You’re In A Fantasy Relationship
Tagged: Limerence, Love, Obsession, Infatuation, Intimacy, Commitment, Fantasy Relationships
“It’s important to note that in limerence, the addiction to this other person is often heightened by the fantasy, not the reality, of who they are and the nature of the relationship.”
— Shahida Arabi, Love Or Limerence? 11 Signs You’re In A Fantasy Relationship
Tagged: Limerence, Love, Obsession, Infatuation, Intimacy, Commitment, Fantasy Relationships
“A limerent person can suffer from such a hyperfocus on the other person that they begin to lose focus on their own lives and revolve their entire day around interaction with this person.”
— Shahida Arabi, Love Or Limerence? 11 Signs You’re In A Fantasy Relationship
Tagged: Limerence, Love, Obsession, Infatuation, Intimacy, Commitment, Fantasy Relationships
“Limerence isn’t so much about commitment and intimacy as it is about obsession.”
— Shahida Arabi, Love Or Limerence? 11 Signs You’re In A Fantasy Relationship
Tagged: Limerence, Love, Obsession, Infatuation, Intimacy, Commitment, Fantasy Relationships
“Those with OCD may be very well aware that their compulsions and obsessions are irrational, but that does not make them less prone to engaging in rituals to ward off the obsessive thoughts and impulses they have.”
— Shahida Arabi, Obsessive-Compulsive Disorder: The Mind On Replay
Tagged: Obsessive-Compulsive Disorder, ocd, Symptoms of OCD, Signs of OCD, Fear, Compulsion, Obsession
“In any type of relationship with a narcissist or sociopath, remember: their abusive, toxic and manipulative behavior is the problem – not you. Normal, healthy people do not go around deliberately harming others or manipulating them. In order to stay sane, you must seek outside support and validation to escape the inevitable reality erosion involved in this nightmare.”
— Shahida Arabi, 5 Seriously Fucked Up Ways Covert Narcissists And Sociopaths Destroy You
Tagged: Covert Narcissists, sociopaths, Narcissism, Psychopathy, Narcissistic Abuse, Malignant Narcissism
“Your true twin flame will cause you to grow in healthy ways; your false twin flame will destroy you and cause you to self-destruct.”
— Shahida Arabi, 5 Powerful Differences Between Twin Flames And False Twin Flames
Tagged: Twin Flames, False Twin Flames, Narcissists Masquerading As Twin Flames, New Age, Spirituality, Toxic Love
“In your opinion, what’s the biggest difference between love and infatuation?”
— Shahida Arabi, 111 Fiery Conversation Starters And Topics To Ignite Killer Dates And Meetings
Tagged: Conversation Starters, Conversation Topics, Dating, romance, Love, Infatuation
“Children of overprotective parents have issues with the concept of "control" as adults. They despise losing control but they also resent being controlled.”
— Shahida Arabi, Children Of Overprotective Parents Do These 11 Things In Adulthood
Tagged: Overprotective Parents, Children of Narcissistic Mothers
“Gaslighting allows perpetrators to evade accountability for their actions, to deflect responsibility and exercise their control over their partners with alarming ease.”
— Shahida Arabi, Gaslighting(Disturbing Signs An Abuser Is Twisting Your Reality)
Tagged: Gaslighting, Mental Manipulation
“Narcissists are masters of moving the goal posts so that nothing their victims do is ever enough. As childhood abuse survivors, we are no exception to that rule. Our accomplishments are rarely acknowledged unless they meet an arbitrary criteria for “what looks best to society,” or confirms the narcissistic parent’s own grandiose fantasies.”
— Shahida Arabi, 5 Damaging Lies We Learn From Narcissistic Parents
Tagged: Narcissistic Parents, Narcissistic Mothers, Narcissistic Fathers, Children of Narcissists, Moving the Goal Posts
“The silent treatment and stonewalling can have actual effects on the brain. Research indicates that such behaviors are a form of ostracism which activates the anterior cingulate cortex, the same part of the brain that detects physical pain.”
— Shahida Arabi, Stonewalling And The Silent Treatment: When The Narcissist’s Silence Is Deafening
Tagged: Stonewalling, Silent Treatment
“You're allowed to have normal human emotions in response to a hostile situation. While you can choose better coping methods, no one exhibits 'perfect' behavior in response to chronic mistreatment.”
— Shahida Arabi, Fifty Shades of Narcissism Q & A
Tagged: Narcissistic Abuse, Narcissism, Complex Trauma, PTSD, Maladaptive Coping Mechanisms
“Closure is only a fairytale, a myth, a legend. The only true closure can come from within...this is a type of love story where the happy ending lies in not finding Prince Charming. Rather, it lies in the realization that he never existed at all.”
— Shahida Arabi, POWER: Surviving and Thriving After Narcissistic Abuse
Tagged: Closure, Fairy tales Gone Wrong, Narcissistic Abuse, Prince Charming, Happy Endings
“Think about it: a wealthy, successful, articulate, empathic and beautiful woman is a “shiny object” to a narcissist or sociopath who wants some eye candy on his arm or an extra source of income. The most sadistic of these predators rejoice in taking down a particularly strong target and making her feel weak. The more you have, the more likely you’ll be a target, because manipulators want to tap into your internal and external resources.”
— Shahida Arabi, Why Smart Women Fall For Sociopaths, Narcissists And Psychopaths
Tagged: Who Predators Target, Narcissistic Abuse, Narcissism, Sadistic Sociopaths, Psychopaths
“There are times we try to forgive ourselves for something we shouldn’t even have to forgive ourselves for. The traumas you experienced were not your fault. As a survivor, you didn't deserve to be abused, violated, assaulted or taken advantage of.”
— Shahida Arabi, How To Forgive Yourself For Something You Shouldn’t Have To Forgive Yourself For: Healing Self-Blame After Abuse And Assault
Tagged: victim-blaming, Trauma, Narcissistic Abuse, From Self-Blame to Self-Compassion, Healing
“The silent treatment and stonewalling can have actual effects on the brain. Research indicates that such behaviors are a form of ostracism which activates the anterior cingulate cortex, the same part of the brain that detects physical pain. Being ignored can leave someone feeling injured – literally. These effects linger powerfully for the victim, causing fresh abandonment wounds and reinforcing old ones.”
— Shahida Arabi, Stonewalling And The Silent Treatment: When The Narcissist’s Silence Is Deafening
Tagged: Stonewalling, Silent Treatment, malignant narcissists, Malignant Narcissism, Abuse, Control Tactics, Abuse and The Brain, Effects of Trauma, Abandonment, Abandonment Wounds, Ostracism
“A common myth is that the clitoris is a one-stop button that will automatically open to the magical land of Narnia (or orgasm) when pressed. But actually, the reality is far more complicated: the way every clit responds to touch is different.”
— Shahida Arabi, How To Really Make A Woman Come, According To Science: 5 Facts About The Female Orgasm Everyone Should Know
Tagged: Getting Her Off, Female Orgasm, Sex, sexuality, Ecstasy, Mindfulness in Sex, Communication in Sex, Clitoral Stimulation, clitoris, Narnia, Female Anatomy, erogenous zones, Myths About Sex
“Be aware that a woman may not always be assertive about her needs in bed because she’s been socialized to please her partner. That’s why getting her off requires active listening and mindfulness.”
— Shahida Arabi, How To Really Make A Woman Come, According To Science: 5 Facts About The Female Orgasm Everyone Should Know
Tagged: Getting Her Off, Female Orgasm, Sex, sexuality, Ecstasy, Mindfulness in Sex, Communication in Sex, gender roles, Gender Socialization
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